CAN’Ts Feed DEPRESSION. The main feeling, or belief, that fuels depression is hopelessness. Every time you say to yourself, or someone else, “I Can’t,” you unintentionally reward this negative belief, since believing you can’t do something is the first step towards giving up. For example, if you start losing hope in your marriage, it is natural to say, “I just can’t do this anymore.” Saying “I can’t,” in any situation, often provides us with justification to quit something, that we are actually physically and emotionally capable of doing, but simply don’t want to do. It would be healthier to say, “I won’t” or “I don’t want to,” since at least with these statements you are giving yourself a choice (Joshua 1:9).
Joshua 1:9 ESV: Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”