Be a LOUD LISTENER. We don’t just want to be heard; we want to be understood as well. To be a Great Listener you must master two skills, Asking Good Questions and Paraphrasing. Try to avoid asking Yes or No questions, since this unintentionally sends the message that you want a short conversation, and aren’t interested in hearing a person’s heart. For example, you could ask, “What else happened,” or “What do you think you want to do about…?” Paraphrasing is simply repeating back to a person what you thought you heard them say without giving your opinion. It might sound something like, “So what I hear you saying is…” Asking good questions and paraphrasing not only let someone know you’re really listening to them, but they also keep you engaged in the conversation and avoid negative assumptions and misunderstandings.
Proverbs 2:2 ESV: making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding