BREAK your INNER VOWS. Inner Vows are promises we make to ourselves in our youth, that we are often unaware we are still keeping. For example, you may have been repeatedly hurt by one of your parents growing up, and subsequently vowed, “I will never be like my mom or my dad.” While this may seem healthy on the surface, especially if you came from an abusive home, in reality, vows like this cause you to waste energy trying Not to do something, instead of focusing on becoming the impactful parent to your kids God intended. Rather than pursuing success, your motivation is to simply “Not Fail.” You can usually identify your Inner Vows by paying attention to extreme speech or behavior in your life, such as always avoiding certain environments or types of people like social situations or authority figures. Once identified, inner vows can take several attempts to break and may require the help of a trained counselor. This is why God implores us in Matthew 5:33 to simply say “Yes” or “No,” and not to make any vows. The only vows He ever wants you to make; are the ones you take on your wedding day.
Matthew 5:33 ESV: “Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform to the Lord what you have sworn.’