LOVE is an ELEVATOR. It’s very common in marriage for one partner to get worse as the other gets better. When your spouse is struggling, be it physical, spiritual, or emotional, you’re often forced to step up and take on more responsibility in the relationship. Once the crisis subsides, instead of just returning to business as usual, you will tend to feel like you now have permission to fall apart. While this behavior may be natural, it can become an unhealthy habit, where you and your partner learn to value equality and score-keeping, over sacrifice and servant-hood. If you’re goal is a 50-50 Marriage, then you’re unintentionally preparing for divorce, since a 50-50 relationship is what most attorneys are seeking (I Peter 4:8).
1 Peter 4:8 ESV: Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.